To Healing your Mind, Body & Soul

Tammy had been suffering for years from various health issues, which included arthritis, lower back pain, and an under-active thyroid. She felt helpless because nobody seemed to be able to help her pain and struggles.

 

When she read the book 'Your MindBody Journey', she started to understand why her body was in pain and the underlying causes. She decided to take it further and had a 1:1 session to get some quick results. First I asked how she wanted to feel after our session together. She said, ‘To feel free in my body and to feel LOVED’. For her to get to her desired place, firstly we needed to find out WHAT was preventing her from freedom in her body and WHY she didn’t feel loved.

 

After a few questions we found her key. We discovered she was holding onto a lot of unexpressed anger, frustration and disappointment which stemmed from when her dad left when she was 4 years old. Her subconscious belief was that she was unlovable and undeserving, so she found herself in unloving relationships that mirrored her belief. She also overcompensated in her friendships by overgiving and supporting everyone, because her subconscious knew that by doing this, she’d get the love and approval she craved back.

 

We uncovered her destructive subconscious beliefs and bought them to the conscious, and this is when the reprogramming could then begin. We activated a new belief in Tammy's conscious mind from feeling unlovable to feeling loved. We also worked on releasing the trapped trauma in her body so that new, healthy energy could flow. From just a few sessions, Tammy was able to speak up and get her needs met and she no longer holds resentment towards her dad for leaving. Her health conditions continue to improve, her back pain has gone and she has finally met the love of her life.

Jed came to me because he hoped I could help him uncover the reason behind his chronic fatigue, depression and anxiety. On the outside he appeared to be happy and successful. He was a young good looking man, did weight training, owned a thriving business, had a lovely girlfriend, yet he struggled every day with his conditions. I asked him how he felt in this moment, he said angry. He was angry at himself for not being good enough.

 

Despite all he had created in his life, he didn’t believe it was enough. ‘There’s no point behind anything’ he said. I asked him why he felt this, he said ‘Because nothing will ever be good enough, despite how much I try’. I asked him who was judging this? There was no-one setting these impossible standards and judging him except him. I asked him if he ever felt like this before? He then told me that as a child he had learning disabilities and because of this they put him in a special class at school, which he hated. He hated the thought of being inferior to the other kids and judged by them for not being good enough. He hated who he was. Once he left school he reinvented himself, to be someone he could like. This is how he got to having the life he did now.

 

The key was that he unconsciously believed he was not good enough, so he kept trying to prove that he was. But as soon as he achieved a goal, he believed it was still not good enough, so the cycle kept repeating. He was exhausted. He told me he didn’t even like his sales business he’d created, it wasn’t his passion. He only did it because it seemed like the only thing he was any good at, so he kept pushing himself to be better and better and better. He was fearful that if he lost his business, his fit body, his girlfriend, then he’d have nothing, which would prove he’s not good enough. It was time his pattern of not feeling good enough stopped.

 

We worked on reprogramming the subconscious part of himself that believed he wasn’t good enough, to a place where he felt that all he was and all he had achieved so far was BRILLIANTLY ENOUGH. Then we worked on him being true to himself. What was his true passions. What did he really love? What bought him joy? We made a plan for him to bring his passions and all he loved into his life. The third stage was for him to trust himself and his path, so that he wouldn’t slip back into the old patterns. Finally Jed learnt to love himself for all that he was and all that he wasn’t. He finally knew deep in his heart that he was good enough, no matter what. Needless to say his chronic fatigue went, he got his mojo back and his anxiety was no longer an issue.

 

He was finally at peace.

Kerry came to me with Polymyalgia rheumatica (PMR) — an inflammatory condition which was causing intense pain and stiffness in her shoulders and hips. She’d tried everything. Nothing had worked.

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Once active and deeply involved in her community, she now felt defeated.

When I asked how the condition felt, she said, “Debilitating. Intense. Depressing. I feel useless. Like my life has been taken away.”

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Whenever someone is ready to heal, their story is never far from the surface.

Kerry’s father had died when she was a child, leaving her mother alone with six children. Love and attention were scarce. Kerry felt like the black sheep — overlooked, resentful, and painfully rejected. She longed for affection but believed she was the one child who didn’t receive it.

It was clear that before her body could heal, something deeper needed attention.

Often all it requires is getting to a place of acceptance of the past, the next stage is forgiveness.  But first I sensed a real conversation was needed.

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Before our second session, Kerry bravely spoke to her mother and shared how unloved she had felt. What followed changed everything.

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Her mother admitted that Kerry was the only child who looked like her late husband. Seeing her was a constant reminder of her grief. Without realising it, she had emotionally blocked Kerry out to protect herself from the pain.

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For the first time, Kerry understood.

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She hadn’t been unlovable. Her mother had purely been heartbroken.​

And this was the turning point she needed.

 

When we gently asked her body why it was holding onto this illness, Kerry had an immediate insight:

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“My condition is preventing me from helping anyone else. My body is jealous. It actually wants my attention and doesn't want to give it away to anyone else.”

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All her life she had been craving love - and now her body was craving it too.

She realised she had been neglecting herself in the same way she once felt neglected. Always giving. Rarely receiving.

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So we created a new pattern.

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She began nourishing herself with wholesome food. Moving her body with care instead of criticism. Saying yes to things that pleased her. Rediscovering forgotten hobbies. Resting without guilt.​ She started giving herself the love she had always longed for.

 

Six months later, her Polymyalgia rheumatica was gone -  and it hasn’t returned.

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But more importantly, she no longer feels useless or rejected. 

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She finally feels whole.

Ben is an accomplished squash player who came to me for a sports remedial massage treatment, to help him with a torn rotator cuff in his right shoulder.

 

Because I am always tuned into the MindBody connection, I  instinctively asked Ben why he thought he had had this injury, as I worked on his shoulder. He looked at me blankly and gave me a very rational, matter-of-fact answer, ‘because I tore it playing squash’. So I tried another tack, I asked him what shoulders represented to him. He immediately replied, ‘burdens’. I asked him if he felt at all burdened. He went silent, then eventually said, ‘I suppose I feel like I’m shouldering the burden of a secret I was told a long time ago’. I encouraged him to go on. He said that he hadn’t told anyone about this and felt so burdened with the responsibility of the knowledge of it.

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Ben went on to tell me that when his father was on his death bed, he asked Ben to promise to look after his step brother who was then in his late teens. He promised he would, however Ben never really got on with his stepbrother and found it hard to fulfil this promise once his father passed away. I noted to myself that this ‘masculine’ burden had shown up in the right side of Ben’s body, as is often the case.

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Since then he felt ashamed and guilty. I asked him if he ever takes this feeling of shame and guilt into his squash tournaments. He said, ‘All the time and it affects me so much. There isn’t a day that passes when I don’t think about it as I feel like I’ve let my father down’.

 

Letting go of his guilt and shame was the key to his healing.

 

After the treatment I suggested that he made peace with this burden, to either forgive himself for not fulfilling his promise, or to fulfil the promise.

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A few months later, Ben came to see me again and told me that he had contacted his stepbrother and ended up telling him everything, about the promise, about his guilt around not keeping the promise and that he was sorry. His stepbrother was so touched by his honesty that they are now in regular contact. Ben said he felt so different now, so free and untroubled.

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He was also pleased that his shoulder was so much better, his squash game was back to its usual standard and he had won his last three tournaments!